Great advice thank you very much. I think the best decision is to just maintain a friendship with her, but date and see other chicks too. I know that is the best and most logical route.
I just find it hard even being attracted to other girls, while being so into Canada-girl. Example. I went to the grocery store about a month ago and the girl at the checkout counter immediately complimented me, and I could tell there was probably something there and I probably could of got a phone number right then... but I didn't. I thought she was cute, she was one of those kinda nerdy, but really cute girls with rectangular glasses, but Canada-girl was just so on my mind that I didn't even really think to jump at the opportunity to ask for this girls number who was being flirty with me.
Thanks a ton for the advice man. And the part about love taking time to grow was a big thing I needed to hear. If I can just put myself out there and start dating other people it will make my feelings for her not affect me emotionally nearly as much, thus less heartache... and honestly it might be the best thing for me and Canada-girl. If we both had our own relationships, and still maintained our friendship. It would say a lot I think.
Honestly, my dream result would be for this. Her and I to kind of date around with some people for a year or 2, but maintain a close friendship. Then in a year or 2 after she graduates if we both end up single at the same time, then her and I can give it a shot. I think it will have to be a long distance relationship at FIRST, which won't be much different than what we are right now -_-... but honestly I'd be willing to drop everything and move to Canada if she wanted a real relationship with me lol. She's talked about moving out to the west coast after high-school too.. so that's a possibility too. But yeah, initial "dating" with her would be long distance.
Part of the problem with my "dream result" though is that I feel like if we maintain a really strong "friend ship" with her for 1-2 years while waiting for her to be 18 and stuff... then after all that time of being FRIENDS, then it would almost become weird to be more than friends. I worry that the friend zone thing will get locked down and be the way it is forever. I'll never completely put her in the friend zone, and I don't think she will for me either, but I don't know... 1.5 years is a long time and a lot of feelings can and probably will change during that time.
Do you think it would be best to kind of lessen contact with Canada-girl and try and distance myself from her, but still keep in contact, just not as much? I feel like I would have a better chance being her boyfriend, if I wasn't one of her BEST friends. Which is what I am becoming... and I don't like it, I don't like it at all! :P lol ok I do love her friendship, but I don't want it to fuck up something better in the future.
I would be okay with kind of straying away from her over the next couple months to the point where we hardly ever talk... and kind of be that way for the year or so it's gonna take for her to be over 18... and then once she's 18 start talking to her again and see if the feelings spark back up?
Fuck man. I over-analyze everything. Thanks again for the advice.
