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10 Oct 2017 11:50AM

Nice story. I know a lesbian on another kink site who'll sometimes talk about how being used by men get her exceptionally hot, sepcifically because it's extra humiliating to her as a lesbian. I get a sense of similarity when reading about your owner. It's kinda heard before that sexuality is fluid but... There's probably an element of truth to it. It's certainly complicated, often well beyond simply "straight / gay / bi (or demi or omni etc)" or the kinsey scale.

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10 Oct 2017 2:15PM

Thank you for reading and understanding. Seems that it is common for an owner to make Her slave give bf's at times. It is humiliating, but i have to obey. Been told i am good at it, then i wonder how can that be.

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11 Oct 2017 10:12AM

Thank you for sharing, I always find it interesting who here from people who fall a bit outside what's considered "normal". I myself am more or less a dominant straight cis male, and I enjoy that role, and I believe I play it well. But sometimes I find myself fantasising about submitting, not to a woman, but another man. Someone who'll be more dominant and just use me. It's a humiliating fantasy, which is part of the appeal. Just like you, I prefer women (almost exclusively), but in some ways that just enhances the fantasy. The idea of submitting to being someone else's plaything is equally humiliating and arousing. In that respect, I think we might not be that different.

Unlike you though, there's also a dominant side to me, who enjoys being the one doing the using, and it is the more dominant side of me. I suppose it's the dynamic I enjoy more than anything, and sometimes it's interesting to see things from the other side.

Come to think of it, I have played online with a few lesbians who felt that being used by a man was an added humiliation, and therefore an added cause of arousal. Perhaps not as uncommon as I initially thought...

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11 Oct 2017 10:52AM

You're welcome, we are all in this life together and i think we are all learning every day. i have never been "normal" and i am comfortable with that now in my life. If you have a desire to submit to another male go for it. Even if you only do it once you will have learned something about yourself. Or maybe you will find out you are a switch. Neither way is wrong.

i can't speak for anyone else about humiliation, but submitting to someone always is to me. Maybe because in the other part of my life i am so strong and independent. i don't have the answer; i just know it is there and i enjoy it.

Good luck in your journey.

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11 Oct 2017 10:59AM

The desire isn't that strong I've felt the need to seek it out - yet, at least. If the right opportunity presents itself, I'll probably take it, but if it doesn't, I don't mind keeping it as a fantasy. It'd be fun to try, sure, but so would visiting china, or jumping in parachute, or scuba diving at the great barrier reef. All things I'm sure I'd enjoy at least trying out if the opportunity comes along... But not something I feel so strongly about that I have any indication to go seek it out. There are other things I'd rather spend my energy on.

Still, it's not like I'll rule out trying it :)

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11 Oct 2017 11:03AM

Grin, the seed of wondering is already planted in your brain.

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11 Oct 2017 11:08AM

Hahaha, oh, it's been growing there for a long, looong time :P
Gender is a performance after all, and I enjoy playing the painfully obvious part of strong, dominant manly man, fucking eager sluts hard and giving them the humiliation they crave. But it is a role. It's not the entirety of who and what I am. Sometimes I play different, gentler roles. Don't talk much about those around these parts, not that kind of places. And sometimes I wonder if I should expand my repertoire, in terms of what roles I play. Variety is the spice of life after all ;)

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11 Oct 2017 11:17AM

The seed is your thought. It might not grow. That was all i was saying.

Most of us do other activities besides sex and bdsm. Enjoy going to a movie, bowling, going shopping with friends, or staying home cooking a good meal.

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11 Oct 2017 11:21AM

Very true. Around this place, people often act as if we are defined by what we do sexually, while for most people, it's only a part of us, sometimes even a fairly small one.

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11 Oct 2017 6:44PM

Agreed, i do many things in life besides those two things. Might add that i enjoy them too.

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