You're not the only one that's fallen for the other woman. The company I work for sends me to a different part of the state every two weeks for two weeks and has done so for the last ten years. Two years before that my wife and I tried to have kids and couldn't. She blamed me for being infertile and ever since we've pretty much been roommates. I took that job assignment because of my home situation. I met the "other woman" while I was having dinner by myself and she was waiting my table. I instantly liked her and hung around at the bar to talk to her. Honestly at that time I had no intention on cheating and just wanted a kind ear to talk to. I told her everything that happened and was honest about my marriage. We started seeing each other every time I came to town. Fast forward 9 years and we have 4 kids together. I haven't had sex with my wife in 6 years and she doesn't even acknowledge me when I get home. I'm pretty sure she's seeing another man but honestly I don't care. Because she alienated me for being infertile when clearly I'm not. The only reason I haven't served her divorce paperwork is because I don't want my kids getting dragged into it. If you guys love each other you'll make it work
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Thanks for the reply and honest post. That is pretty much the only reason I haven't served my wife with divorce papers too. A lot of people say "don't stay just because of the kids," but they don't have to deal with the heart break of a child that has their family torn apart. My wife would barely have sex with me, once a month if I was lucky. Even now, I haven't had sex with her in 6+ weeks. I was so damn lonely so I posted an ad on CL looking to get laid, and you want to know what is messed up?? When I met her, I didn't want to jump her bones - I was floored, knocked on my ass like an electrical shock zapped me. We actually waited 3 months before we got a hotel room, not because we didn't want to have sex, but because we were both trying to understand and come to grips with the fact that we were soul mates. Before meeting her, I never believed in that lovey dovey bullshit about soul mates etc. The girlfriend is hella jealous of my wife, I have to keep that in check. My girlfriend actually said, "I know you're married, I deal with that every damn day because I want so badly to be your wife - but I do understand that she let me have you, and I am grateful to her for that. Even though you are married, I realize I can't live without you. I can't live without you in my life, I'll never leave you." If polygamy was legal - I would marry her. Honestly I would. I've even proposed the idea that she gets to know my wife - but both of them are not cool with the idea at all. Girlfriend: "I want you all to myself, I'm not into women. While the idea of 3 incomes under one roof is a good idea... jealousy would destroy everything we've accomplished. I'd want you all the time, I'd be kissing you and holding you all the time - your wife wouldn't like that at all." Wife: "I'm not ready for that, how do you actually think that would work? How would you explain our situation to the kids?" HAH - so, that's that.
Well it finally happened, I came home and found the apartment cleaned out of her things. She left me a 5 page note about the whole situation and how she found someone else about a year ago. She said she took her things and moved into his place. She doesn't want a messy divorce, she just wants to go and be with him. She said that whatever is in the apartment is mine to do whatever with and I should be seeing the paperwork for divorce soon.
Overjoyed doesn't begin to describe how I'm feeling. Now I just need to find a new position so I'm not gone two weeks out of the month lol.
Interesting that she would go that route instead of not even discussing it with you. At least now you know why she wasn't putting out. I'm spending the entire day with my GF on Thursday. GF does want me to leave my wife but I told her no. I'm sorry your wife left you bro, but you did see the writing on the wall. Now you can concentrate on your needs - the needs that she never met.
