for the past... month? yeah month, i've been hooking up with this girl that i've known for about 6 years. we say its no more than fuck buddies but we actually do things, things like hiking and camping and dinner with each others families. She tells me she enjoys cuddling with me, or kissing me. you have awesome awkward conversations, even during sex. does this sound like a casual hookup relationship because to me... the line of just fucking and legit relationship is getting blurry.
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07 Jul 2012 7:22AM
sounds more like a legit relationship then just fuck buddies. channeling the inner Dan Savage i would say come clean ask straight out where she stands on it all. hopefully you know where you stand!
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07 Jul 2012 7:31AM
Sounds more serious to me as well, and the previous poster is right- you've got to know where you stand with this. Do you WANT to me in an involved relationship with her? Once you've asked yourself this and know the answer then talk to her and see where she stands with it. If you're views conflict then maybe it's time to back away from the situation.
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07 Jul 2012 7:45AM
OP here-
i mean, we aren't that old, we both enjoy our freedom and we're also both going our separate ways come fall, back to our respective colleges. Also, i could ruin a pretty great thing by bringing it up. Making her think i want to get serious and her getting scared off. then again maybe im just being overly cautious and a scared little bitch
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07 Jul 2012 8:50AM
My point is that if you are not serious about the relationship, but she's becoming serious, then you don't belong in that situation. You would just be luring her along and in the end she's going to end up hurt and you will have ruined a good friendship.
If it turns out that she's not interested in something more official, then you can just explain that you were confused by how you behave around each other, how it seems more substantial then it actually is.
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07 Jul 2012 11:16AM
You were friends first, right? Did you hang out with each other before? If so, the only thing that's changed is you all have sex. The cuddling part is relationshipish, but otherwise, do whatever makes you all happy, and don't worry if it's a relationship or not. When ppl try to start talking and stereotyping their relationship, shit goes haywire. Have fun and let whatever happens, happen. You will have a friend for life if you do.
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07 Jul 2012 12:24PM
lol That is such bullshit. As human beings we have a NEED to define ourselves. If OP is starting to feel like this might be more then a "fuck buddies" relationship then he needs to explore that. Shit only goes haywire when you're feeling something that you can't explain, and the only way OP is going to resolve what he's feeling is if he talks about it.
