I've studied a lot about psychology and marital issues so I feel like I have a pretty good idea about what to tell you and how to help you.
Quick question, who is usually stressed out more?
See, the thing is. Women's sex drives typically don't work the same way as a man's. For us men, sex is a physical thing, we need it. We absolutely need to have sex, to inject our seed, or whatnot. But for women, shit, women can go forever without having sex.
You see, for women, sex is not JUST a physical thing, but also a PSYCHOLOGICAL thing. So many idiots on here complain about how their wives don't give them sex after a few years. But what they aren't realizing is that the usual reason behind women not wanting sex, is that psychologically speaking, they don't want it. They lose the desire for it. If a woman is too stressed out, frustrated with her husband, etc, she WILL not fuck you.
I read an article relating to marriages and one of the major reasons for divorce, the second most common reason, is that women file for divorce because the husband does nothing to help out around the house. You see, women work 24/7. I don't give a shit what you people say, women are people too (i'm a guy). They have feelings all this crap as we do. A woman has to work at her job 8 hours a day, then she has to get home, prepare the food, cook the food, clean the house, do the dishes, etc etc. Whereas a guy just works 8 hours a day, comes home. Relaxes on the couch and watches some TV while his wife does all the housework. And THIS is why so many wives lose their interest in sex.
Think about it this way, if you come home tired from work, then do all the chores, cook the food, etc. And you see your wife just sitting on the couch, watching TV and being a lazy shit and refusing to help you out with any of the chores. Wouldn't you, over time, be disinterested in her? Wouldn't you lose the sexual interest you had in her? You'd start thinking things like "ugh, fat bitch won't help me. I gotta do all this shit and what's she doing??! She doesn't do jack shit around here.".
And you know what else is crazy? As men, as husbands, we don't realize this. We look at it from our POV and just think "she's the woman, it's her fucking job." when it comes to having an 8 hour job, doing chores at home, etc etc. And you know what's even WORSE? After refusing to help out and do all that shit to help reduce the stress she has to deal with, we think "Well why the FUCK hasn't she fucked me yet?? Seriously! It's been an entire MONTH and I haven't even received a fucking handjob at least! Why won't she fuck me??!" when we should REALLY be asking ourselves "what can I do to make her WANT to fuck me?".
I'm a husband, been married for 15 years. My wife and I both have 8 hour jobs. Her work is a little more intense than mine, so I do a bit more chores at home than she does. If she's too tired to do chores, then I take over for the day and do all the house chores. I like to make her feel appreciated. What most husbands don't realize is that if a woman is too stressed out or fed up with your shit, she won't fuck you. That's why I do little things for my wife, to help her out and prevent her from getting stressed out at all. And you know what else? The more she loves you, the more she wants to fuck you. She and I have sex in the mornings. I eat her pussy before dinner (we discovered that it's better to have sex before eating). We shower together, we have a very active sex life.
I've even given these same tips to my friends who're in a sexless marriage. You know what? For the ones who actually did something to help their wives out, to ACTUALLY help her out. I'm not talking about giving your wife a shoulder to cry on, but actually getting up, and helping out with responsibilities. I'm talking about helping them out, massaging them to reduce stress, helping with cooking, kids, chores. It'll help your wife out a hell of a lot. And the less stressed out your wife is, the happier she is. The happier she is, the more willing she is to fuck. Heck, she'll even have the desire to have sex more than you do.
I hope this helps. ;)
